In 2012 I was in a bad place in my life. I just felt like everything was going wrong. That same year I gave my life to Christ, and it was the best thing I’ve ever done. In 2013 I received a good job offer at the end of the year moved into a new place, got a new car and met my now husband at that job. My life started to take a turn for the better.
I remember the first time I truly noticed him, he was on his knees praying before the start of work. In my head, I whispered “I want a man like that, in your timing Lord”. I did not know this man nor was I attracted to him. I just had never seen a man on his knees praying before… EVER, especially at work. That was a characteristic that I wanted in my future husband. As the days went on neither of us spoke to one another until one day, he decided to move to the desk next to mine. I thought it was strange. “Why is this man trying to sit by me? Let me just ignore him so he does not get the wrong idea or bother me.” Lol
Every day he would try and talk to me and I would blow him off because I thought he was weird. Then, he added me to a group “bible study” email which I thought that’s kind of an odd thing to have at work but still, I read it. We then started speaking to each other every day and turns out this man was really cool. We instantly clicked. He would tell me all of the drama he had going on in his life and so did I.
He truly became my best friend very quickly. It felt good to talk to someone and get a man’s point of view without liking them or wanting to be with them. When I say I did NOT like him in that way I truly mean it. He wasn’t my type or at least what I “thought” my type was at the time. Everyday he would preach to me the importance of making sure I tithe and that the Lord will bless me even if I don’t see it now.
I remember at one point both of us were struggling in life with money. One day he would buy me lunch and the next day I would buy him lunch. Everyone used to ask us if we knew each other before this job because that’s how close we had become. I would always refer to him as my “annoying” little brother, because that’s how I truly felt at the time.
He ended up leaving the job and joining the military. We wrote each other and made sure to keep in contact. I remember the first time he contacted me after his basic training. I had a sense of “are we suppose to be together” … I quickly laughed to myself and said no way, you’re not attracted to this man and he’s like a brother to you.
We ended up talking every other day and just keeping up with each other. Maybe a month later I swear I had that same thought… “are we supposed to be together?” Turns out he was having the same thoughts as well. We both prayed about it. We did not want to step into anything if it was not the Lord’s will for our life. We both ended up getting so many different signs so we gave it a try. I still had this thought of… but Lord I am not attracted to him. I did not think he was ugly or anything he just wasn’t “my” type. I promise the Lord checked me and said… “so did those other guys that you were “attracted” to work out? Why are you not with them”? He immediately helped me realize it’s not about who you are attracted to, it’s about how he treats you as a woman, how he respects you, how his relationship is with Christ. That’s what matters, the attraction will come later. As months went by that attraction to him became evident.
So here we are… two years of marriage and I am so thankful that I did not ignore the urge, because then he wouldn’t have become my future husband. This man is truly a gift from God and I am so thankful. I can’t believe that I didn’t see him for who he was because now, I have never been more attracted to a man, from his relationship with God, to his looks, the way he treats me to his relationship with our son, plus more. Lord I thank you for giving me the ability to recognize the signs and all in all just let life happen. This man is someone that I literally prayed for and that women pray their husbands were like. Thank you 🙌🏾